The time has arrived! Your significant other has asked again if you would give anal sex a try. Or maybe you are just a little curious yourself about the pleasure others have described with this type of intimate play. There are a few things you should be aware of before you experiment and get behind this idea.
First it is perfectly natural to be curious about the human body and all of its many functions. The internal anal muscles contract involuntarily in order to remove waste from the body. The external anal muscles, the anus, is a made of voluntary muscles so that one may control defecation. This is very important to understand when you are thinking in terms of this type of sexual play. Here is why. If you attempt to insert an object into the anus quickly because those internal muscles are involuntary they immediately respond to secrete the object outward. This can cause discomfort or extreme pain for some, especially those who are a virgin to anal sex. Another key factor is the twists and turns of the body inside. It is possible to tear an individual if something is inserted carelessly. This becomes even more harmful because here is where a majority of the body’s bacteria is found. Infection is at its highest risk in this area. Never insert anything into the rectum and then insert it into another opening. For added precaution use separate toys for anal than you do for vaginal or oral encounters.
Like other muscles in the body you need to carefully stretch the anal walls slowly before and during insertion of any anal toys or male member. It is best for curious beginners to start with a sterile finger, small tapered anal plug, beads, or probe. Make sure to clean the desired object thoroughly with an anti-bacterial soap or toy cleaner. You may even place a condom on the object for an added safety precaution. Apply one of your favorite lubricants to the adult toy or finger generously. You want to select a thicker longer lasting lubricant. Some lubes are designed specifically for anal play or silicone lubricants are known to be thicker and longer lasting. Be warned, if you are using a sex toy be sure it is compatible with your lubricant. Some materials break down when you use a silicone lube. Also be sure, you, yourself are compatible with the lubricant of choice. If you are unsure apply a small amount in a testing area to observe a reaction. Also available are anal desensitizers to aid in numbing the anus and anal walls. Like the lubricant be sure to test for allergies. Do not apply desensitizer to your toy or object being inserted. Instead place a small amount on the outer edged of the anus and just a little inside at the opening. Do not use a large amount. You want to be able to feel some sensation to the area. If you are completely numb you will not be aware if you are pushing yourself too much and you are more likely to hurt yourself.
Once you are comfortable with you selection of lubricants and its application, slowly insert the object, stopping if necessary. You can slide it in and out as you explore your body’s reaction. You will feel some discomfort at first, if it becomes too much, stop and try another time. Listen to your body. Apply more lubricant as needed at any time. As you insert the object more and more, try moving it around a bit stretching those muscles. Work up to the pleasure you desire by inserting the object further and faster. Always remember to stop if you feel pain or extreme discomfort. Apply these same tips when engaging with a partner and inserting a penis for anal sex.
Other than selecting the lubricant for you and the possible anal desensitizing creams it can be confusing as to which anal adult toy is right for you. Butt plugs are an option for beginners and for the experienced. Many are tapered from the top and gradually get larger as you reach the bottom. Some have different shapes or bubbles for added stimulation. Each have what is known as a flange at the base. These act like a stopper and the flange should not be inserted into the anal cavity. Anal Probes are similar to butt plugs but are usually a more slender version to the plugs. Anal beads are also a common choice for anal play. They allow the body to have added stimulation and usually are tapered in sizes of beads as inserted. Something to look at when selecting your beads; what holds the beads together. With many materials on the market, it is recommended you avoid beads held together with a harder plastic material. They have been known to break easily and this material is common in many of your cheaper beads. Not all but many beads have a retrieval ring attached at the end. Do not insert this ring into the body. It is designed as a safety precaution to pull the beads out of the body especially when lubricants can make your toy extremely slippery and hard to grasp. You should never insert an object completely into the anal cavity. Because of the strong involuntary muscles it is possible for the body to pull the object farther upward making retrieval difficult and may require medical attention in extreme cases.
All of these anal toys are available at Lotions Potions & Vibes online adult novelty and sex toy store in vibrating or non-vibrating designs and vary in colors, sizes, designs, materials, and prices. Anal play can be overwhelming to the novice and exciting. Beginners should select toys that are smaller and smoother and work up to larger, textured toys. Although taboo, anal sex provides a different sensation with all the unique nerves in this area of the body and many find great pleasure in this type of play. Like other parts of the body, over exerting these muscles can cause damage and has been known to be a contributing factor in incontinence when aging. It is not for everyone and should be practiced with extreme caution. Be sure to always inspect your toys before and after each use to prevent bacterial growth. Store them in the proper places avoiding outside exposure to bacteria. Most importantly remember to explore safely with this information in mind and enjoy what so many already are enjoying alone and with a partner.
